The Divinity in Pregnancy and being a Mother – Have limits when you are in relationship

Sairam friends,

Being a Man many might think I may not be able to know the emotional side of Pregnancy and being a Mother. Few scriptures has said that if you really what to show how humble you are to Saints and Gods, have a Women’s heart while worshiping. May be women are known for their Humbleness which is very essential in the path of devotion.

Over the past 9 years many Sai devotees has wrote me for prayer, suggestion of pooja for Child Birth and I have replied hundreds of these mails with few words. Mostly, its not my prayer and the Pooja which is blessing them with child. Its simply their intense faith and Love on Shirdi Sai Baba and Gods/Goddess they love which has done the miracle of child birth.

When the child is born, some devotees mail me happily.

One example of the mail I got in 2011 is as below ( Devotees name not give due to Privacy reasons)

I have a five year old daughter.

I was planning for second child,two years back i was pregnant but i had joined my work just then and taken lot of pain killer medications.so i went for abortion thinking that the baby will be abnormal. Now i am desperate to have second child,but oh godd i had two miscarriages in this year 2011.

Oh I am so depressed with this one ,I really have faith in you in Baba,I dont know bcoz i did a sin by aborting I have been paid the Price twice.

Oh Sai I pray and have sincere devotion please bless me with normal pregnancy and Healthy Childbirth.
I am now going through a very hard time please be with me to come out of this one and please bless me with a healthy child and safe pregnancy..

I requested her to read Sai Satcharitra regularly, do a Simple Pooja by offering milk and water to Sai and Gods she love and have it as prasad. I also requested her to have a look at SaiMother.com which might make her feel confident that Sai will bless her with child

Some times, I forget the devotees who mailed me but suddenly get a mail from them after many months or years. This week in August 2013 the same devotee mailed me as below

“Om Sairam,

By Baba blessings I am blessed with a baby girl Nishtha she is now 14 months old .Thank you so much Baba…..

Thanks”

How Sai Baba inspired me to write about the Beauty and Divinity in Pregnancy and being a Mother

The other day at my office, one of my friend was looking at my new mobile and asked me , do you have blue tooth in it. I said, “Yes and I named it “Sai Tooth“.

He asked “Enna nenechu ipidi peru vachuruka?”

What on earth you thought and kept such a name for your Bluetooth?

Every one laughed like anything and said , “Don’t keep Baba’s name for everything” . He said, in our religion its said “No one must be compared with God” and Blue tooth is a Technology. Why you want to add Sai with it.

I felt he is right but told him, in our religion its said “Daivam Manushya Roopaanam” – God comes in the form of Human.

So its OK to associate Saints and Gods we love with what ever we love and whom we love.

I too laughed but said, there’s a temple of Saibaba in pune where they have keep Baba’s Tooth which he gave during his life time. I didn’t change the name because I am like this.

That evening, they wanted us do some Photo Printing at work. Myself and my friend went out early. We gave the Photo for printing and had enough time to collect it back. My friend wanted to go to this Horror film, Conjuring. On the way, I kept praying Baba, let us not get ticket because I wanted to go to Annapurani Temple in R.S.Puram. I told him, its close by only. Shall we go as its been long since I went.

He said, No way and finally when we reached the mall. I was upset as Mall was not crowded and I know we will surely get ticket. I said, Baba, lets not get ticket for this Horror film ( Pai padam vanam baba) and thankfully we got ticket for the Tamil film Aadhalal Kadhal Seiveer – So You Should Love

Where ever I go, what ever I do,I only keep thinking what I am going to write in StarSai and I believe Sai gives me experiences only to make me write good for Sai children. Even if I watch a film, I know Sai has some thing to tell me through that.

Firstly, I loved the girl in the film – Gorgeous – Cutu kutti…he he…

Secondly, I found the story apt for the moment.

Its a story about how a youngsters fall in love, build a relationship with out their parents knowledge and they get too close that they get into physical relationship before marriage and finally when the girl becomes pregnant, it gets painful for her. When their parents find out, it portrays what happens in Indian society and family set up. The boys parents agree for marriage but demands to abort the child which the girl and her parents deny.

The guy becomes selfish and insults the girl and they break up.The girl gives birth to the child ( Still unmarried) secretly moving with her parents to different city and the Father of the girl hands over the little baby to an orphanage.

After couple of years, they show as if the Boy is dating another girl and the previous girl’s family and the girl completely hides that she had relationship, about her child etc and marries another guy.

The baby in orphanage has no one to care. In orphanage no one gives special attention to any child like a Mother are father does. So this life is created to suffer…..

I truly loved the movie because It really captures how guys and girls are into relationship these days, how they believe that their liking for each other is very true and even have physical relationship before getting married. Its OK to have fun when you are in relationship but if you go beyond limits just because others are doing it, surely you might have to be in pain.

After watching this film, while going back home,  I had tears in eyes because there are girls who write me that they had physical relationship during their relationship, they had such relationship after engagement but the marriage was annulled etc. Do not judge girls to be bad just because they did such mistakes. These are good girls from good family. They just didn’t realize things might get worse if it goes wrong.

Men too write me about it, but only after many years.

Example – A Sai devotee used to mail me and say his children are not well, he is not well and he feel its because of the sins he did to girls when he was young having physical relationship with them.

In western countries, people date and live together but no one is going to question them even if they have a child. Its their life and their wish. They can bring up the child together or as a single parent. In India, we have lots of societal restrictions. We create a big scene as if we are very pure and cultural but honestly we all have changed a lot. Our culture has changed our attitudes has changed.

So understand that we have a good culture and we have to stick to it.

Have limits when you are in relationship

I am not against having fun when you are in relationship and going out etc. I am just telling you whats good for you if you have some restrictions when you are in relationship. Girls trust the guy they like so much. When you are in love, the whole whole looks like a bunch for fool for you and only what you both decide will be right.

Adding to this, there are Sai devotees who ask for hints from Saibaba. If Baba is wearing green dress today,  then I shall accept this guys/girls proposal, I shall marry this guy etc. Well. Its no Baba. Its simply your imagination. Kindly don’t take decisions in your life trusting words in such hints or even in Answer Books of saibaba (including mine) etc.

Be careful in what you do and tell yourself you won’t give up yourself in your infatuation. Having fun, missing each other and talking some stuff honestly is not love. Love has lots more beautiful things and you may really not like each other after few years. So never get into physical relationship when you are in relationship.

I am not a saintly person to preach you whats good and bad. You know whats good for you. I am also one among you and that’s why I care. Its not me but Sai who really cares about you. Sai wants you to know your life will be good if you are pure. Don’t worry about past but from now on, be good and pure.

I also wish to write few words for couples who are married…

The Divinity in Pregnancy and being a Mother

Pregnancy is one of the most beautiful feeling a women can have. It brings happiness for her husband and more than anyone her own parents. Your Mother want’s to take care of you when you are pregnant. One must experience pregnancy happily and in peace. There are girls who fear during their first pregnancy and some are so stupid that they even do abortion. One of my friend did this mistake and was not able to have a child for many years to come.

If you wish to have a child and got pregnant, please go for it and never abort the child as Child birth is gift of God. On my way to Saibaba temple in Coimbatore, I see this Women’s Fertility center which has a huge parking space and so many couples might be coming in there for having a child. So remember, not all are blessed with child so easily.

There is a divinity in Pregnancy. You feel Motherly when you are pregnant and its one of the most auspicious of all happenings in your life. So be happy and experience pregnancy as beautiful as it should be.

Keep remembering God, Read good books that’s inspiring , motivating or any sacred Books you like.

“Being  a Mother”

Being a Mother is a divine experience. I wish every girl goes through this divinity with purity in heart and soul. I really don’t know why I wrote this article though Sai has inspired me to do it. Sometimes, I remember what my Mom used to tell looking at Saibaba Photo.

“Rendu pulla pethen, onnu scientista iruku, ononu elaarukum nalladhu panreenu solludhu.”

“I have two children, One is dedicating her life for science and always in her Lab and other is doing something saying he wants to do good to everyone”

I have tears in eyes when I write this. May be I would have been practical and lived the life like others do.People will only find me preaching like a fool. Sai never used to preach. Sai simply gives you an experience and who ever reads this, please take it as a experience.

Just because I write no body is going to change but I believe even of one girl learns the divinity in being a Mother through this article, it satisfies Baba.

I wanted to write this article yesterday but net was down and I was really worried about it all day. Today I was sooooo happy that net is working and its my Life.

I kept telling my friends at work that net is not working at home. They asked me what you do on net everyday? I said…hm hmm.I have a 7 billion Dollar Company and they laughed at it.

Its my Little StarSai…

I write for 7 Billion of us

For the world to become a better place

Early Pregnancy is a Global issue

World Health Organization article  about Adolescent Pregnancy

About 16 million girls aged 15 to 19 years and two million girls under the age of 15 give birth every year.Worldwide, one in five girls has given birth by the age of 18.

Anyway friends,

Am getting late for work..I kept thinking how to write this article for 2 days no matter what I do but had to write in hurry. I had more to express but getting late for work. Its like giving birth to something you have in mind. A writer carries his child in heart and until he actually writes it down, he is not satisfied.

I feel satisfied now as I wrote what Sai inspired me to.

May Sai bless you to be a Mother and experience the divinity in pregnancy

Love

Venkat

Always in the holy feet of Shirdi Sai baba