Be genuinely happy when your boy friend or girl friend moves on to someone else and gets married

Sairam friends,

Feb 14th is my Sister’s birthday. All I could do for her is go to Sai mandir and pray for her well being. I keep remembering my Sister often as she’s not taking care of her health.

She gets irritated even if we ask what food she had because for her, its unimportant topics. If we speak more, she will blunty say that she’s taking care.

When we started back to India from Sioux falls airport, I hugged my Sister in the airport and kept looking at her until I had to walk to the flight.

The little flight was carrying us to Chicago and wonder what happened to me, I started crying thinking about my Sister. When we boarded from Chicago to Frankfurt, I was OK for a while. Once, it got dark, I again started weeping as I don’t want my parents to see.

While in Germany, I called my Sister to say I can’t control weeping. She said “well, its like this when we live too far and we have to adjust”. She asked me to watch a movie in the next flight and asked me to visit again soon.

My Sister works so hard for her research and sometimes, I feel that she has everything in life but gives no time to enjoy that.

On her birthday, I pray Sai to bless my Sister with good health, get the grant she’s trying so much for her research as it makes her happy and bless her family too.

Now, to the theme of the day!

As Doctor is for a sick patient, StarSai is for people who face problems and difficulties in life.

For all of you who are happy with their current relationship, happy valentines day.

You shouldn’t be reading this.

This article is for those who are going through painful period in their relationship – Breakup with your boy friend or girl friend or praying Sai to get back their lost love.

I have been through all this. So I know it pains but trust me, you get used to the pain.

You certainly can live without the one whom you trusted and loved most.

I have been writing articles on relationship issues for almost 12-13 years. I should be a guy who reads love story of atleast 2-3 people every other week.

Some girls write me when they go through a breakup or when their boyfriend moved to another girl. They do some pooja, travel to Shirdi, read Sai Satcharita for him to be back.

Well, Appreciate it but I always take a neutral state if I choose to reply such mails. Sai helps but he we also should have wisdom in life.

Being addicted to someone to the extent that you can’t live without them is not good relationship. Its slavery.

Divert your mind doing something useful.

Do what you love most.

Visit good friends or your parents if they live far from you.

Do not show your anger and frustration on others.

Be happy for the one who’s meant for you should have never left you. So be open for anything to happen in life.

I always request Sai devotees to be flexible. Don’t demand Sai for anything. Tell him, you are upset about an issue and he should take care of you. That’s it.

Sai works very slowy in relationship issues. Sometimes, you might have to moveon and live your life.

I will be even more stricter when guys write me about their relationship problem.

You are a man and you should bear such pain. You should focus on what you can do to make your parents happy and live your life.

When it comes to me, I was too emotional in the beginning. Gradually, I got used to it. I started analyzing why I am suffering like this?

Well, Its all Karmic. May be, I hurt a girl or many girls in my previous births. So I am supposed to go through this.

So when ever I get an opportunity I try to do good to any girl I come across. This is all we can do in our life. Trust me, even if you desire to do good to others, only God should give you an opportunity to do good. That again depends on how you mould your charecter.

Sai sends few male devotee who comes to have his darshan to School. This school is a small hut at a distance from Dwarakamai. You know who lives there? Radhakrishna mai.

Seems, She’s beautiful lady but she speaks very harsh. he he…

A man who meets her and doesn’t have any impure thoughts are in good books of Saibaba. They have passed his test. So Sai calls her hut as school.

A school which teaches how to perceive a women.

She will make even rich men to wash vessels..he he…I mean she gets work done for Sai because after 1910 huge crowd of people started flowing into Shirdi to see Saibaba.

There are other kinds of people. They get frustrated when their girl friend or boy friend finds someone else for themselves and begin a new relationship.

Well, it happens.

These days, relationships are complicated.

You can be upset for a while but don’t be possessive on the one who don’t deserve you. Make your mind strong and believe that life will be cool gradually.

Some girls ask me why Sai is not punishing their boy friend and how can he be happy with another girl?

Well. That’s not your business. Once you realized someone isn’t bothering you, move on and live your life. Who cares if he’s happy or sad?

I am not writing anything new here. I have repeatedly touched the same topic. What’s new is the kind of relationships happening these days. You can easily cheat on the one you loved. You can even marry and continue to be in touch with someone you met in past.

All this hurts Sai to core. Please understand life before you fall in love or atleast when you get married.

You are meant to be true to your husband or wife no matter what emotional attachment you have on others.

Some girls and guys are too narrow minded that they desperately to get back their lost love.

Why should you? People change. That’s natural. So you be who you are because you come from good family.

Be broadminded. This is the key to happiness in life.

When you lost your love and they move to someone else, do not be shocked or get upset. Go through it with a strong heart.

If you get news that they are going to marry their new boy friend or girl friend, be geniunely happy for them. If you can’t be happy, atleast ignore the news and live your life.

This is all I can say.

So when did I got this realization? Its after spending several years being too emotional and sensitive. Well, I am sensitive even now which is why I am suffering.

The past 2-3 years were really painful. Last evening, I told Sai that its not right on his part to show some stranger in dream and make me write to her. That too in office environment. Sometimes, I feel as if I should run away from this place and jump off the terrace.

“Ipidi en maanatha vaagitiye Sai.”

I get furious looking at Sai at times but his ways are hard to understand.

May be, its all Karmic. I would have done some sin to this girl in some birth and now I am supposed to get embarrassed like this. May be, I am supposed to pray for her well being. This is the only meaning I could give to my dreams.

After all these years of experience, set back in career, all I have with me are my Ma, Pa and Sister.

I don’t know how to live life without my ma and pa. I get scared a lot.

Its easy for me to advice not to worry when you are going through a relationship pain. Trust me. I can understand what you are going through.

I got all this realization only after I lost thousands of hair follicals on my head. Experiences makes you get used to pain. You won’t even feel as if its painful. That’s the state of mind Sai wants all of us to achieve

So be happy.

Read books.

Do a new course.

Learn new language

Spend time with your parents

But never be upset when things turns tough in your life.

My life is gone. I start to feel like that. I write articles on relationship since I believe it will help others avoid the mistakes I did.

Please don’t waste your time.

Last night, my Sister’s Father in law called up from Washington and gave me some references to do my Ph.d I am not getting a good guide. I wish to do Ph.d in Marketing Technology.

My Sister’s father in law will follow up and surely ask me if I am persuing my interest. So now, I have to take steps to get it done. Atleast I should beging this year or sit idle and be a looser.

Well, keep learning.

Don’t be too much into relationship problems.

Focus on what you can do to yourself and this Nation.

Your life will be good.

I am getting late now.

Tata

Venkat

Write to venkat

starsai27@gmail.com

My Sister dropped me in Downtown Sioux falls. I was walking in the street from a museum when I saw this cute Squirrel starring at me and photographer it. Hope you liked it. Everyday, I keep cashew and nuts my sister got me in trees near the garden where squirrels live.