Sairam friends,
The past two days, I came across this news – Hasin Jahan on her accusation about her husband, an Indian Cricketer. While I have nothing specific to comment about it, when I saw few interviews of Hasin, its believable that She has gone through immense physical and mental torchure.
This news got all its attention since She’s wife of a famous cricketer. Think about numerous other girls who might be facing problems in their family.
All through these years, I have given importance to girls when ever I write an article. At times, I wonder if I should address issues faced both by Men and Women. If you look into domestic violence or number of other family problems, its the women who suffers most. I also get mails from Men who are hurt by their wife.
Three years back, I continuously received a mail from a lady in North India. She wrote me that her husband has political influence and hence torchuring her locking her in a room. She also has a baby to take care of. You must understand that if you are facing such domestic violence, you must escape and report to media or any specific NGO workig for Women’s rights. They inturn might bring in the law enforcement authorities. I live thousand’s of miles away and legally I cannot be of much help. All I could do is say a prayer to Sai to help this girl.
Apart from this, I also receive mails from girls who say this…
I am seperated from my Husband
My Husband is not taking care of my kids
My Husband has extramarital affairs etc
I did a research and found this tweet from a girl
“There are about 470,556 cases of violence against women that are pending in the Indian courts. Why is the media covering Hasin’s case so much. Is it due to TRP?”
So I am not wrong when I write so much that one must learn to respect the girl in their life.
Further, if you are in a good position and enjoy a perfect Career, kindly focus on how much you can contribute in your work front.
I am seriously wondering if its right for a Man or a Women who ever it is to cheat their Wife/Husband?
Externally, we as a society has grown a lot but only when a specific girl gets into marital problems, We would know the pain She’s going through. This is why I don’t like it when people celebrate Women’s day. Even when I write articles on Women’s day, I am not able to justify if its the right way to empower women.
We are focussing on the bunch of girls who are already happy and have a good life. What’s the point in having a party for Women’s day and doing videos, writing articles and having some events to these girls?
Instead, if we analyze life of girls who don’t have good opportunities and who don’t have environment to express themselves, its pathetic.
Some of you might even assume that only girls in villages or small towns are facing domestic violence and dominance. This isn’t true. Girls whom you come across in your workplace and from an educated and elite family might also be going through severe mental torchure.
I am tempted to write this today because I personally believe that one must never hurt a girl be it a stranger or a wife.
I cannot help any girls who are writing me about their problem. I can say a word of prayer in my mind. What else can I do?
There are girls who say this
“I want my husband back”
Well… Is he worth it? If you beleive he’s worth it he would have never left you.
Secondly, they add this
“My husband is good but his family spoiled him”
Well. When a Man gets married, he has to treat his Parents and his wife equally. If he has left you, let him go. You can’t help it. One must have buddhi to think what he is doing is right or not for his future.
This is why I always request girls to focus on their education and career.
Girls who have a good career can be live independently and can tackle such situation in a better way.
Think about how I would feel if a girl from Mangalore who has not even completed he graduation says she got pregnent and aborted. This guy left her and again She wants him to come back. Come back for what? Another pregnancy?
All girls are not gold!
These days, I have come across few forward thinking Husbands who even let their wife chat or speak with some guys they come across online or from their workplace. They don’t want to hinder their wife’s freedom to speak to someone they like. I appreciate such mutual understanding between a Husband and Wife. Its not wrong but I am a man and I know where most of such relationship ends.
Only when it takes a wrong turn, both girls and guys write to me. When ever things are smooth, no one needs Sai.
These days, We have lots of easy ways to communicate and hence harmony in family depends on the limit you maintain with people outside your family.
What can Saibaba do when our mind is not pure?
We must be thankful to Sai for what he has blessed us with and lead our life.
If you have a simple family and a child, focus on your career and live in peace.
Don’t mingle with any girl or guys outside your family and never trust anyone.
If you have such a principle, you will never have any problems in your family life.
I end this with a prayer to Sai to bless Men and Women to live in harmony and be true to each other.
Om Sai Ram
Venkat
