How to get rid of fear? Face lots of rejection in life and accept it as experience

Sairam friends,

I have 15 minutes to write this before starting to work. I have several things running in my mind for Sai and not able to implement it. I myself fear for little things in life and always wanted to write an article to help people get rid of their fear.

Are you not trying things because of fear of being rejected?

We all have a inbuilt system in our mind and brain because of the previous experiences which keeps telling us “Look. Don’t ask for it. Don’t do it. Don’t even try. Because you are going to get rejected.”

We think that things won’t happen in our favor and hence we don’t even take effort to see if we can succeed in it. We basically have fear of failure. Fear of being rejected.

Even when I ask for little thing and when someone says “No”, I wanted to leave the place as I get embarrassed. Did I think the world is going to give what ever I ask for. “No”. But I wish when I ask for it, I must get it or I feel insulted.

I was speaking about “How to get rid of fear by accepting rejection in life” while walking in our campus and he was making fun of it. He told me “What if I go and propose the girl walking over there?” She will slap me.

I said, you can’t do it. At least not in India but you can apply this in various other places. ( And even if she accepts it, she’s going to deny someday. Over the past 10 years, I get mails from youngsters saying, “He left me/She left me” and my answer is simple. Let him/her go. You be internally strong.Focus on your studies and career. Live for your parents happiness.)

You can try to get rid of fear by accepting rejection in other issues …like…

If you wanted to be an Entrepreneur, you can keep trying for getting investors to fund your Idea.

Finally, if you were never successful, reject your idea and accept a full time job…he he….

If you want a change in your career, you must keep trying for better job and never worry about being rejected.

Lets take a Rejection test:

Try to practice “Rejection” by asking people something you think they might reject. You will be surprised to know, they really come forward to do what you asked for. In fact, they will show you why Mahatma Gandhi actually exited on planet Earth. Trust me. There are good people every where. * Conditions apply. Please don’t read this and ask for crazy things and strictly don’t ask for Money..he he…

This rejection test is only to practice getting rid of fear in you.

You just did not try because you feared too much. You feared for being rejected.

OK. What made me write this article today.

All that I write is to change myself. My parents say I too fear a lot and have to change myself. I realized that I don’t like to be rejected. How can I expect to never fail? One must be eager to do something and accept failures happily.

Who inspired me to write this article. I wanted this TED talk and felt It will certainly do good to Sai devotees too.

Click here to watch – Surprising Lessons From 100 Days of Rejection: Jia Jiang at TEDxAustin

Sai has faced his set of “Rejection” too.

Sai used to beg for alms from 5 houses in Shirdi every single day all through his life time. When Sai goes to few houses other than these, he gets rejected very harshly saying “Why do you come to beg early in the morning”. Sai never bothered such harsh words because sai just gave them a opportunity to wash away their sins and be blessed.”

Shirdi Saibaba has said “Why fear when I am here”

But having served Saibaba for more than 10 years in this birth and I assume several hundred years in previous births…(I know it Baba. I was with you.) I still continue to fear.

And today, I wanted to do little I can to help you get rid of fear.

Next time someone rejects you, someone puts you down and when someone hurts or insults you. Remember. Its just an experience to go ahead in life. You are going to be successful someday.

Sai blessings,

Venkat