Sairam friends,
I have always wrote in support of women and girls in love but suddenly I was thinking am I too partial to girls and not bothering about the Man in love. I mean lets say a girl and a guy were in love. Due to some issues, they could not get married and hence the girl got married to another guy. Now the girl is happy. May be in our example the girl is blessed with good husband too. So the story looks fine. Life looks good.
But what happened to the Man who loved her dearly and whom the world forgot about?
I thought about it as I was thinking about one of my Sai friend who was close to me before few years. She was a good friend of mine and I have spoken to her boy friend whom she wanted to marry. She was from a well to do family and this guy also met her Father. As far as I know the guy is good in few aspects. The girls Father clearly told him that my daughter is used to living in a big house. So buy a 3BHK flat in a good area in Mumbai. Then lets speak about marriage.
Mean while, my Sai friend and the guy also had few misunderstandings.
After few month, I got a call from this girl saying my Marriage is fixed with another guy. I was feeling pressurized from my family members that I must marry a rich guy and he is also good man. She said, she does miss her boyfriend and asked me what to do. I gave her few advices but nothing worked and she also accepted the new life.
She’s happy now. Her husband is good as far as I understand. She calls me once in few month from abroad or when ever she comes to India and goes to Shirdi etc.
Suddenly, I thought of asking this to myself. Where is the other side of the story? What happened to her past boy friend who was in love with her for years? So are we forgetting stories of the Man in relationship? May be he met another girl. May be he’s married too. May be he’s still in pain.
We never know. We hardly think about the other side of every good story.
You see, Sai blesses each and everyone with a beautiful life and want them to play their role properly. The reason I respect this past boy friend of this girl is because he never was a obstacle to her marriage. I don’t think he scolded her much. I don’t think he was harsh to her. He din’t complain that she cheated him etc. He accepted life as it is and moved on.
Now this is why I remember this guy suddenly today.
There are so many people who meet in school, college, work or online and get into relationship. At times, when the relationship doesn’t work out due to any reason, please give freedom to the partner and move on. Being a good man is accepting love when it comes to you if you like it and also ability to withstand any painful happenings and give respect to the girls parents or her own interest and let her live her life peacefully.
The same advice goes to some girls too. There are girls who tell me , this guy was in love with me and now he’s behind another girl. We had a breakup, parents din’t accept for marriage etc and will he come back in my life or won’t Sai punish him. Well. In relationships magic won’t happen as you think. If the guy has changed, let him lead his life as he wish. I know its painful but kindly divert your mind and help yourself lead a peaceful life.
When ever there’s a breakup in relationship, some people do threatening act. If you don’t speak to me, I will do bad to myself, I will spoil your life etc.
Look. Don’t be silly. All this drama is only going to make you more a sinner. If someone doesn’t need you, please control yourself and focus on your studies or career and go to peaceful place to think how to make your life more meaningful.
Anyway, I felt like writing this because I want people to be responsible and make use of every moment of their time productively and for good cause. You don’t have to serve the world. Simply serve yourself by making your mind relaxed and be in peace. Only then you can take care of your dear ones and your parents.
I want to share this with you.
When ever I pass by outside my office near the place where there are few trees, I see some bunch of guys speaking to each other. When ever I see this short guy, I know he’s speaking about some love matter. Magane..Nee love paneetu indha pasanga ta Idea keetute iruka….I can clearly see, this guy probably has proposed someone or may be likes any girl and his friends do a round standing meeting once in a while giving him ideas, plans or simple talks.
I smile to myself when ever I come across this group but there’s a story to tell. If you like a girl and if she doesn’t like you, please learn to come out of it. Read good books, learn something new and do something that’s useful. At least look for other girls who might be good to you.
I say this both to girls and guys. Don’t stick to one person and pray saibaba to help you. Keep your mind pure and broad. Accept life as it comes and move on.
The moral of this article is simple
MOVE ON
Relationships happens for some reason. At times it works forever and at times couples breakup. So learn to respect others feelings, change your mind set and move on
You are also blessed
May be Sai will show you a way soon.
Love
Venkat
Always in the holy feet of Shirdi Saibaba
