Sairam friends,
There are few mails from devotees which scares me to core. A women kept writing that her husband has influence in politics and he’s beating her regularly. She has to live as she has a small baby to take care of. I don’t have any means to save anyone from crisis and all I can do is pray for you. The whole of StarSai has one way or other helped couples who are in love. This is because, most of you don’t know the extreme pain some girls and guys face.
Surprisingly, there were two-three stories from Andhra. This girl tells me, my boy friend used to love me a lot. He told about it to his parents. They had immidiately gathered around 20 relatives to convince him not to marry this girl. So its not just girls. Many men too face similar situation.
Girls face much more. In some parts of North India like Rajasthan, U.P and Bihar honor killings are prevalent. If a girl marries a guy from some other caste and religion, She’s forced to take poison herself. If not, there are cases where girls are killed by her own brother or parents.
You must watch this documentary on Aljazeera – India’s Love Commandos: Saviours from honour killings
Many girls these days are telling stories of a different kind. Seems, their parents don’t like the guy as the horoscope did not match. Listen. There are two ways to get married.
1.You go by arranged marriage with all your horoscope and scientific observations
2. Your girl is already in love. There’s no space for horoscope in a love marriage. Let her face the consequences even if horoscope says something bad would happen to her. That’s why people get married right? To face life?
I know several girls who tell me that they had to forget their boyfriend and marry someone else since their parents find something wrong with the horoscope.
Recently there was this news – When two adults marry, nobody can interfere, Supreme Court tells khap panchayats
Unfortunately, some parents see it as a pride when a girl marries a man from their own caste. Most importantly, the one they have choosen. Did he fall from sky?
Apart from girls and guys writing me from Metro cities, I also happen to come across people from small towns. Only in small towns and villages of India, these honor killings are happening.
Leave Love jihadis..You know about the blackmail torchure some parents and relatives does to these couples?
One of my cousin’s friend married another guy in same caste leaving behind her boyfriend. The reason – Her grand mother blackmailed that she will commit suicide. Paati…Nee seriyane fradu. Have you ever come across story where a grand mother commited suicide since her grand daughter married a man from another caste? This has never happened in History. But in India, people do all drama they can to convince the girl.
These are not families living in villages. These are well educated parents who don’t even take time to see if the guy is good or not and learn about his family.
I am not completely supporting girls and guys. There are situation where the parents are right. One must analyze if the guy or girl involve and their family is really good or not and proceed.
I have never helped anyone directly but my words has helped couples decide what they can do. Some have agreed to their parents wish and married the guy they choose for them. Some have decided to be calm and wait for things to change. There are girls who say her Dad hit her head on the wall and beat her for falling in love with a guy who’s from another caste.
Where ever there’s humanity and true love, Sai lives there.
I am not sure what changes will happen in India in the next 10 years. I hope for a positive transformation. Let a girl or a guy who’s in love marry as they wish. It’s their life. Parents can advice what they feel is good for them but it must not go to the extent of beating them or blackmailing them with emotional tactics.
I launched a website to write about online courses and books today. I am not going to show it to you since I wish to have better content added to it. So hold on. I write a lot on relationship but I am fed up when girls and guys write me saying I am missing her/him a lot. She has changed a lot. He doesn’t speak to me anymore etc.
Look. Breakup is a part of love life. Be happy that the guy did not marry you and only later you realize he doesn’t truly love you. Be thankful to Sai for showing you who really is. I launched a new website writing about Courses and books since I want you to divert your mind on something that helps you to earn a better living. Use your time productively rather than worrying about someone who don’t care for your well being.
Let’s name her “Bujju”
I have been writing about this girl whom Sai had shown me in dream from september 2016. These days, I worry a lot if its decent on my part to write about a girl without her permission. I tried my best to avoid mentioning this issue but it hurts when Sai knows I live by his words. This is a period in my life when I realize that I am too old for all this game. I never felt that way back in 2016. I regret for not being little careful and matured. I named her “Tak Tak” as she walks fastly and now I don’t like that name.
My Sister’s Daughter Katya shows little toys which has bought recently during our skype call. We both name her dolls. I named one of her Monkey doll and Pandu. When ever I ask her where’s Pandu, She runs to pick the Monkey and show it to us. I often give such cute names to her dolls.
Now a days, I just ask Saibaba one thing. Tell me who’s She and why should I get dream about her? When Sai keeps silent, I eventually decided to see the whole experience as Child’s play. So I named her “Bujju” like the name I give for one of the dolls.
Secondly, I also wanted to use this keyword to search all the articles I mentioned about her. Someday, I might want to delete all these articles or paragraphs where ever I mentioned about her. Its an inconvinient truth that I am writing about her often just because it hurts me deeply on how I can go wrong after several years of devotion on Sai.
Anyway. I am going to write about her for another few month until I get an answer from Sai. After few month, I believe my life will change and I might forget her. As of now, we have named her “Bujju’. Isn’t that cute?
Hope Sai shows me a way
Venkat
The featured photograph is Amir Khan speaking with Sanjoy Sachdev, Chairman of Love Commandos in Satyameve Jayate – Star TV. They have saved several young girls from honour killing. I take a different approach. When girls write me, I ask them either to be strong, leave their family and get married or agree for the life their parents decides.
I can pray for you but in most cases parents win. I say few words to make these girls and guys feel little better. I want them to live strong no matter whom they marry. I wrote this article and slept at 2 at night. I already received 2 mails from girls saying they love a guy from different caste and they guys parents are not accepting.
You are not alone. So keep yourself strong.
This morning, I had a dream as if there’s rain and I am taking a girl and a guy to Saibaba temple. Wish there’s rain in Coimbatore by Sai’s grace in the next few days.
