Sairam friends,
I wanted to write about Koothanur Maha Saraswathi Amman temple especially because I love this Goddess but I don’t like the change in this temple. See the article I wrote in 2005 after visiting this temple. – Sai Saraswathi.
In 2009 when I went there itself there was some change in the environment. In 2018, it’s completely different. I am not saying a Temple must not become famous and get crowded but I love to see the old version of these villages and temples. I also always imagine Shirdi as it would have been during Baba’s lifetime and not the current Shirdi.
Getting out of relationships that are built based on emotions and not true love
I have come across several girls and guys simply being hooked to a guy or a girl just because they know them well as a friend or they are caged in a relationship with them. You simply can’t say that you love someone just because they had been with you or helped you with some issues. These days, when girls go through a breakup, they immediately befriend some other guys to vent out their worries and thus a new relationship happens. At times, its good but most of the time this isn’t the right way to live a peaceful life.
When you can’t bear a breakup, speak to friends but don’t build another relationship on top of it. A man who tells you some words to heal you can never be with you for a lifetime. I have seen girls who go through a breakup and come out of it smartly. Initially, it will be painful. Gradually, after a few months, they will realize this guy isn’t worth it and move on. This is the right way.
Instead, if you begin another relationship to forget the previous one, it might eventually lead to another disaster.
As I get old, I see most of the girls who write to me as my children because that’s how Sai perceives his devotees. I avoid giving my number to anyone especially since if I get close to anyone, I begin to tell them “Don’t do this…Don’t do that”. I say it since I care but it also sounds like I am not giving them space to live their life as they desire.
At times, I get really irritated when these girls get into a relationship that can never be accepted by their parents or society. Saibaba will always help us but we must go on the right path. We must never give space to emotions and make our mind hard as stone.
Never be hooked by emotional words and deeds. Be clear about what you want in your life and focus on your studies or career.
Here’s what you can do to get out of relationships that are built based on emotions
1. Stop communicating with these guys/girls regularly.
2. Focus on your studies or career and divert your mind on something more important in life.
3. Learn to respect everyone in your life.
The worst problem with most girls is that when they are in love, they see their boyfriend as an angel and every other guy as just someone else. Even if your boyfriend has two wings and a crown and sounds like an angel, try to see there are love and respect for you coming from every other guy or a girl you come across in day to day life.
4. Never be hooked to just one person in your life.
5. Ask yourself if you can marry this guy or a girl. If you can’t, quit such a relationship from its roots.
I often get emails from girls saying “I can’t live without speaking to him. I want to speak to him even if he’s married. I can’t live without him etc”
I was OK with all these 10 years back. Now, I get irritated.
Simply take a paper and write down if you are doing what your parents expect from you and list down what you can do to make them happy.
You don’t have to please Baba.
Sai is a poor fakir.
At least try to shape your life in such a way that your parents will be satisfied.
Never be in any relationship which gives you pain.
There are so many good girls and guys around. You just don’t know them.
True love isn’t about speaking on phone, chatting, or saying I can’t live without you.
If a guy or a girl really likes you, they will focus on their life to lead a peaceful life.
I am getting late now.
I will never see the Koothanur Saraswathi temple I saw in 2005. Times are changing.
I can only imagine how beautiful were those days.
Om Sai Ram
Venkat
