Sairam friends,
Last week, my friend Vidhya called up after many months/years and we spoke a lot about what’s happening in our life. I used to like her a lot years back. I used to pray Saibaba for her that I wish to marry her. It took years for me to realize we can’t marry someone just because we like them.
Every girl has a kind of attachment to the place they belong. I live over 1000 Kms away from Mumbai and certainly Vidhya has no opportunities as an Air hostess in a tier two city where I live. Thankfully, I understood things are not going to workout for us and painfully stopped thinking about her. We used to talk to each other very rarely – Just once a year for 5 minutes.
Recently when she spoke to me I feel really thankful for Sai because I never ruined a girls career or even disturbed her. I simply understood such long distance relationships are painful and kept away. She had a home loan to pay when she lost her job in an domestic airline. She even asked me those days if Sai has punished her for hurting me. I told her Yes just to irritate her but honestly I kept praying for her.
4 years back, She got job in an international Airline and she is doing well now.
Even when she lost her job, she managed to take up other jobs and managed to pay her dues. She was focussed on her career and Saibaba also helped her to grow ahead.
Now, she has some relationship issues and asked me to see if Saibaba has any answers for her life.
Vidhya is really beautiful than how I saw her 8 years back. I told her its really hard to judge if a guy really likes you especially since a Man can like you just because you are good looking. Anyone likes to have a beautiful wife by their side. True love doesn’t have anything to do with looks. So I asked her to give some more time and worship Saibaba to guide her on whom she should marry.
I am happy that I transformed a lot in these years. I simply wish to see the girls I know to lead a happy married life. I lost all my desires especially since I went through a lot over the years.
Last night, when she opened her door to get the dinner she ordered, seems the guy was starring at her for couple of minutes. She had to ask him to handover the dinner and locked the door. I asked her to be careful.
This is the problem if you are beautiful. You easily get attention of every man but who really loves you beyond your looks? Is it possible to identify such expression of true love?
I will tell you another story.
Last week one of my friend who left the work called up. He told me something which disturbed me. He asked me to help him with something which again I wasn’t happy about. But I thought he’s desperately needs it and I had to send it to him. He told me that he will be calling that night to explain what happened. As I assumed, he never called up. I was really upset with such friends. I don’t even know if I should call them as friends any more.
What am I going to do if he tells me what’s going on? Couple of years back, I did a mistake and from then on the way these people treat me is really humiliating. In that case, he must have not asked me to send something? Why should I do it? I feel its not right to do it but I did it as he was desperate. Later, I felt bad about it.
If everything goes well, I will be happy about it.
But I certainly don’t want to call these guys as my friends. They are completely self-centered. They took all rights to call me phychic and humiliate me and now when they are into a problem, they act too smart.
He once commented that he won’t say anything as I will write online. Well, I would have never wrote if he learns to treat a friend as a human. They treat me worse than a Dog in some situations. I regret for knowing such guys.
One reason I am happy about myself is that I never ever bothered career of any girl I liked. Thankfully, I did not did such a sin. I simply diverted my mind when I realize things don’t work for us.
Sometimes I ask myself if I have any good friend with whom I can openly share what ever I have gone through. Honestly, I can’t even think of one such friend. I speak to Saibaba in my mind or looking at his portrait. I write in StarSai to vent out my worries.
I don’t like friends who use you when they need you.
Anyway, this is my humble request.
When you are in love or if you like someone, ask yourself if its possible for you to help them in their career even if you marry them. It could be a girl or a guy. You can’t take anyone’s career for granted.
Sai blessings
Venkat
You can speak to me Venkat sir..I will listen patiently without judging you, any time you feel there is no one to do that