Sairam friends,
This pain happens to Men too. I know some men who love their wife a lot but they eventually leave them as this girl likes some other guy. I am surprised a women can leave her family even after they have kids. I have received 2-3 mails in the past 10 years from single Fathers.
Most of the mails I receive are from women. Some of them are about breakup before getting married. I usually take a neutral stand for such mails. I say, just keep yourself internally strong, divert your mind and move on with your life. People expect a positive reply from me but my job is to make people accept what ever happens and be confident that their life will be good even if this guy doesn’t come back to them.
Usually, Its easy for me to atleast say a word if someone writes me before getting married.
I get atleast one mail every 3 weeks from a girl in some part of India or abroad saying she’s seperated from her husband and desires that he comes back to her. I shall pray for you. This is all I could do. I know its painful but analyze what is good for your future and take the right decision.
In spirituality, most of the scriptures speaks about living with one Man and Women no matter how harsh they are. They call it “Karmic” and hence if a Man or a Women gets a life partner who doesn’t love them truly, they are supposed to accept it and bear the pain. The only reason being “You would have sinned them in some previous birth”.
So bearing the pain, living with the same life partner alone can wash away your karma.
Some Women who continue to love their husband and stayed with them during bad times have gradually changed their Husband’s mind to understand her and they have lived happily in few years.
So “Bearing” and patience has really worked and it works till date.
Scriptures does expect you to love your husband no matter how bad he is but you must also have some “Buddhi”.
I call this “Wisdom to understand if someone really deserves you”.
I actually get irritated with some girls who foolishly trust their husband no matter how harsh they have been. I listen to them. I listen to them and later, I get bored of them. You must try to get back to your husband if you are seperated but he too must have some concern on you. Atleast his family members must show some interest in you. If everyone are hurting for a long period of time, its better to quit.
I won’t use any other word other than calling it “Quit” because I am supposed to unite people and not seperate. You alone can understand what will happen to your life if you quit and move on with your life. Don’t take my article as a hint from Sai. That’s totally mis-guiding. You must write down reality and expectation. Wait for a change to happen. Have enough patience. Don’t focus on result but on ways you can achieve your result. Try your best but once you are fed up, its better to move on with your life and be happy about it.
Why I am writing about this issue today?
I was blessed with the following dream this morning. I see myself in my grandparents house and writing something in a paper. My Sister introduces me to her friend who lives in Mumbai. She tells me that this girl is very beautiful but her husband left her. Later, I meet this girl and speak to her. Suddenly, it gets dark in the night. This girl wanted to chat in the darkness. So she goes in search of a lamp to sit in darkness outside the house.
That’s it. The dream was so lively and vivid. I could remember the girls face but never know anyone like that.
I am really very curious about remembering my dream as soon as I wake up. If you don’t re-collect the dream in the first 5 minute and go into some other thoughts, you will completely forget the dream. Today, I woke up and thought about the days I was learning to play guitar and if its right for me to learn to play keyboard after so many years.
After a while, I thought ‘Did I get a dream today?” he he.. I completely forget the dream and gradually went back in time and re-collected it.
You must understand why Baba blessed me with this dream. Its simple. Saibaba cares for girls who are seperated from this Husband though for some of you, he has not answered your prayers. So you might think Baba is not at all caring for you. When ever the situation involves another person’s ‘Mind’, Sai won’t be able to do “Miracles” as you desire. This is why many of your prayers in relationship doesn’t come true. Sai can change you but not someone who doesn’t have a good heart.
Probably, Sai expects you to understand the situation, the guy involved, think if he really is going to change and take the right decision. Above all, patience matters. So don’t hurry. Hold on some months and see what works best for you.
Sai really cares for you.
Sai loves you,
Venkat
(Featured photo used with courtesy)
