Thanks for making me coin a new word “Brotherphobia”

Sairam friends,

One of my friend at work and myself used to read Wikipedia on various topics. When I read about few personalities, they would have been credited for coining a new word. So once in a while, I used to imagine that I too must coin several terms like this because someday, historians of future will credit me for first creating a particular word.  I used to wonder if its so hard to coin a new word?

Anyway, here’s a new word which I have coined first on Planet Earth. ( As far as I know).

“Brotherphobia”

Over the years, I have found this strange culture in my sweet country. When ever any girl wants to befriend someone, they start calling ‘Anna or Bhaiya”.  Fine. That’s a safe relationship to define before the guy assumes just because you talk to them, you expect a better relationship with them.

On many occasions, some of these girls I come across used to call me “Anna”, “Bhai” and I got used to it.

Later, I wondered what really does this mean?

1.Are they like my sister or

2. Do they expect me to see them as a sister or

3. They just want to make it clear that since they call me as a brother, I must reciprocate the same to them.

Most of these girls call someone as “Brother” just to establish the 3rd point above.

If I clearly analyze, very few girls call me “Anna” or “Bhai” with that sisterly affection. I have a Sister and I know to be a brother takes lots of responsibility.  Now a days, many write me with my name but sometimes, it really bothers me, people establish the word ‘Brother” in some language just to make sure I know my limits. This isn’t right.

You can call me a brother and I may not see you as a Sister. It’s my heart and my mind right? He he…

Its 2016 and I don’t like such culture happening even today. Please for Gods sake be practical.

Call someone as a brother if you know what purity and responsibility the relationship comes with.

Yesterday, One of this girl wrote me the below mail…

Dear Venkat,

Jai Sai Ram..!! I have been visiting Star Sai from past many years but never read your and other devotees conversations.

Fortunately yesterday i.e. 15th Sep 2016 ( Thursday ) i got chance to read those conversations also while i was sitting in (company name hidden) for my interview.

For me you are like my angel from Baba’s side. I want to speak with you. If you allow. I will write to you again about my life’s story. If you have little time for me.

Thanks & Regards

*****

The subject line of this mail was “You are my Angel sent by Sai for me.”

Ethuku Saibaba idhalaam? Why all this Sai? For telling my stories to the world relating it with how Sai is taking me on a journey, do I deserve all this?

I was really touched because thankfully not all girls wants me to be a brother. He he…I wrote to her and tried to guide her to come out of her problems but what can I do when I myself don’t know to find a solution for my problem? All I have is few healing words. I requested her to read Sai Satcharitra. I just felt happy for Sai has gifted me with so many children around me.

The reason I say this to all of you is this.

Even when someone writes me such a mail, I still see her as Sai’s Child. I may not even see this girl once in my lifetime as she lives hundreds of miles away. She’s into her own worries and praying Baba. All she needs is Sai must show her a way to lead a peaceful life. All I could do is say few positive words to make her be confident that Sai will show her a way and I did that.

I crossed a stage in my life when I get attracted to someone for name sake and its honestly not necessary for any girl to establish the word “I see you as a Brother” to me.

Be clear and practical.

There are couples who are married for 30 years and still could not find true love among them.

Why should you think calling someone as a “Brother” is going to save you? Call someone as a brother or a Sister if you have that true affection on them. You must follow them for lifetime. Will you? You must care for him/her even when they are not around.

If you have such a commitment, perceive someone as a brother or sister.

Else, just call them by their name but clarify to them about the way you perceive them.

I have “Brotherphobia”

That’s why I started all my Sai friends as “My Children”.

Why should I be your brother? Let us take it one step ahead…. I will be your “Father”. he he…

Happy right?

Now you are in a safe zone.

I made this for you. Does it make you smile?

If there ever is a Wikipedia page in my name after I die, make sure you find these words written – ‘He coined the word “Brotherphobia” as several girls across the country and continents called him as a brother’. I like to be a brother but have fear of being called as a brother. That makes all the difference.

Venkat

Edit – Many of you wrote me for the first time after reading this article. I did not expect it. Some of you even asked if they should not see me as a brother. You can. You always can. I just mean to say call that way if you know what it takes to be a brother or a sister and not merely to make sure I don’t perceive you in any other way..he he…Obviously, I wrote this to make you laugh. Did you?